Dear Abby,
I am writing to you to ask for advice on an issue that has been bothering me for some time. I have a friend who lives in Spain and we talk on the phone regularly. We have been friends for a few years and I enjoy our conversations. The problem is that every time we talk, he hangs up without saying goodbye. I have asked him why he does this and he says it is just a habit he has.
I understand that this is his habit and I don’t want to be too pushy about it, but it still bothers me. I feel like it is a sign of disrespect and I don’t like it. I want to maintain our friendship, but I don’t want to be treated this way. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Disrespected in Spain
Dear Disrespected in Spain,
Thank you for writing to me about this issue. It sounds like you have a good friend, but you are feeling disrespected by his habit of hanging up without saying goodbye.
First, it is important to remember that this is his habit and it may not be intentional. He may not even realize that it bothers you. If you want to maintain your friendship, it is important to communicate your feelings in a respectful way.
Try talking to your friend about it in a calm and understanding way. Explain to him that you enjoy your conversations and you appreciate his friendship, but it would mean a lot to you if he said goodbye before hanging up. Let him know that it makes you feel disrespected when he doesn’t say goodbye.
It is also important to remember that you cannot change someone else’s behavior. If your friend continues to hang up without saying goodbye, you may need to re-evaluate your friendship. You deserve to be treated with respect and if your friend is unable or unwilling to do so, you may need to consider finding new friends.
I hope this advice helps. Best of luck.
Sincerely,
Abby
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